What is a lady in 2009?

Has there been a change in the criteria for being a lady? Many asked in my ministry, why do I use the title “Lady” before every female name within the ministry: I use that title to let the females know, it is still okay to be a lady. Calling them lady, will remind them that regardless where they are in life; they still need to represent the “lady” within them.

We have gotten away from being a true lady: dressing respectfully; respecting ourselves by not allowing anyone to call us out of our name; taking care of our families and teaching our daughters how to be ladies as well as teaching our son’s how to recognize a lady and most importantly, how to treat her like a lady.

As I look at the music videos, and commercials on prime time and during the day; the women are half dressed and using sexual innuendos to sell a product. That is not being a lady and money can’t buy the true lady. Use your beauty and talent in other places that are reputable. There are plenty of charity organizations that would love to use your talent as a “Lady” How do you expect to attract a perfect gentleman if you are not a perfect “lady?” A lady is a woman of grace, class; a humble lady; a lady with dignity, charismatic; a lady brings light to any room she enters into - whether there are 2 or 500 people. A lady comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and personalities. No one should have to introduce a lady as “Lady,” simply because your actions will speak for itself.

I ask, has the standard for a lady been lowered or have we as true women allowed the title to be handed to us without question or protest? Are you proud of your actions, can your daughter or son look at you and tell you are a lady? Are you proud of what they (the children) see in you?

Are you a lady today or are you a lady in waiting (waiting to change)? Tell me if you are a true lady or what are you doing to become a true lady for the first time. Of course, it is not too late to turn your life around to re-set the standard within your family!

Singles talking Sex in the Church!

OMG! Is it a sin for singles to discuss sex in the church? Why is it that so many churches shun away from sexual topics when ministering to singles? Do the ministers not know that 90% or more singles in the church has had a sexual encounter? Could this be the reason why singles are turning to the media (talk shows, radio personalities, and/or fortune tellers) for relationship answers? Is there a problem with singles speaking out about sex in the church? These are questions I am asked everywhere I go. As a Christian, I believe the learning should start at home (home outside of personal home - being the church). I would rather my children be given the spiritual knowledge of sex versus the societal thoughts of sex. What is your take on singles sexual conversations in the church?