Has there been a change in the criteria for being a lady? Many asked in my ministry, why do I use the title “Lady” before every female name within the ministry: I use that title to let the females know, it is still okay to be a lady. Calling them lady, will remind them that regardless where they are in life; they still need to represent the “lady” within them.
We have gotten away from being a true lady: dressing respectfully; respecting ourselves by not allowing anyone to call us out of our name; taking care of our families and teaching our daughters how to be ladies as well as teaching our son’s how to recognize a lady and most importantly, how to treat her like a lady.
As I look at the music videos, and commercials on prime time and during the day; the women are half dressed and using sexual innuendos to sell a product. That is not being a lady and money can’t buy the true lady. Use your beauty and talent in other places that are reputable. There are plenty of charity organizations that would love to use your talent as a “Lady” How do you expect to attract a perfect gentleman if you are not a perfect “lady?” A lady is a woman of grace, class; a humble lady; a lady with dignity, charismatic; a lady brings light to any room she enters into - whether there are 2 or 500 people. A lady comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and personalities. No one should have to introduce a lady as “Lady,” simply because your actions will speak for itself.
I ask, has the standard for a lady been lowered or have we as true women allowed the title to be handed to us without question or protest? Are you proud of your actions, can your daughter or son look at you and tell you are a lady? Are you proud of what they (the children) see in you?
Are you a lady today or are you a lady in waiting (waiting to change)? Tell me if you are a true lady or what are you doing to become a true lady for the first time. Of course, it is not too late to turn your life around to re-set the standard within your family!
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Singles talking Sex in the Church!
OMG! Is it a sin for singles to discuss sex in the church? Why is it that so many churches shun away from sexual topics when ministering to singles? Do the ministers not know that 90% or more singles in the church has had a sexual encounter? Could this be the reason why singles are turning to the media (talk shows, radio personalities, and/or fortune tellers) for relationship answers? Is there a problem with singles speaking out about sex in the church? These are questions I am asked everywhere I go. As a Christian, I believe the learning should start at home (home outside of personal home - being the church). I would rather my children be given the spiritual knowledge of sex versus the societal thoughts of sex. What is your take on singles sexual conversations in the church?
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Single Parents Recession Survival Techniques
Every time we look at television or listen to the radio, the main topic is job loss; bonuses being paid to top executives; gas and food prices increasing; cities and counties are near bankrupt; foreclosure on the rise and many more depressing topics. How are we as single parents getting through this rough time of economic depression? Have you lost your job due to the recession? Are you depressed due to the recession?
Here are some tips to help us stay on our feet:
1. Turn off the media (Television and Radio, unless you have satellite radio); select certain times of the day to watch television and listen to the radio. One day while needing some uplifting, I turned to the gospel radio station. The first three commercials were about credit card debt, home foreclosures and bankruptcy. Wow, I thought what a way to be uplifted! I know the media make money from advertisements; however, at this current time these infomercials are not necessary during commercial break.
2. If you are seeking employment, do not spend every waking moment searching for a job. I am not telling you to not look for employment, but take a break. Create a scheduled time four days a week when you will look for a job via online, telephone, in person and make certain, you include one of those days to follow up on the searches you applied to in the past few weeks.
3. Take time out for yourself. Do something that is inexpensive or free. Go to a bookstore and read a book; take a quiet moment to watch a good movie (comedy or drama), a walk in the park or a peaceful country drive. It is important to have that "me" time. Remember whenever, we are going through a difficult time in life, our children are the first to pick up our vibes. We want to keep our children lifestyle as normal as possible, but also inform them of the financial status of the household and world (only if they are old enough to understand).
4. Make your time with the child or children special. In lieu of going out for entertainment, create a game out of watching some of the old movies you have at home. Play games such as guess the next line or word while watching your favorite movie. This is the funniest suggestion I think I have: Have your teen teach you the latest dance (LOL). Try creating new meals with your children, something they really like to eat.
5. Use coupons. Swap coupons with your friends and family; they may have coupons that you need or you may have coupons that your family and friends can use. Coupons can save you a whole lot of money.
6. Family sales. Have a yard sale. As you begin to go through your home, there are things you probably have not used or worn in years. If you are not comfortable with having a yard sale, check with local churches or community organizations. Community yard sales are common and families can lease a table for a small fee. You pay the fee to the church or organization and all of the proceeds are yours to keep.
If you have any survival techniques of your own, feel free to post them.
Inspirational Words of Encouragement:
As a single parent, we often tend to worry about the days ahead, as well as today. It is our nature to want to provide, protect and nurture our families. What we must remember is that we have no control over what may happen in life. Where we thought there was stability in our life is now rocky soil. God did not intend for us to worry about things we have absolutely no control over; He is in control! He is our provider and resource. I know this is hard to hear when you are struggling and scared; but give God a chance.
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Matt 6:25 (NIV)
Visit us on the web: http://www.s2asinglesministries.org/
Here are some tips to help us stay on our feet:
1. Turn off the media (Television and Radio, unless you have satellite radio); select certain times of the day to watch television and listen to the radio. One day while needing some uplifting, I turned to the gospel radio station. The first three commercials were about credit card debt, home foreclosures and bankruptcy. Wow, I thought what a way to be uplifted! I know the media make money from advertisements; however, at this current time these infomercials are not necessary during commercial break.
2. If you are seeking employment, do not spend every waking moment searching for a job. I am not telling you to not look for employment, but take a break. Create a scheduled time four days a week when you will look for a job via online, telephone, in person and make certain, you include one of those days to follow up on the searches you applied to in the past few weeks.
3. Take time out for yourself. Do something that is inexpensive or free. Go to a bookstore and read a book; take a quiet moment to watch a good movie (comedy or drama), a walk in the park or a peaceful country drive. It is important to have that "me" time. Remember whenever, we are going through a difficult time in life, our children are the first to pick up our vibes. We want to keep our children lifestyle as normal as possible, but also inform them of the financial status of the household and world (only if they are old enough to understand).
4. Make your time with the child or children special. In lieu of going out for entertainment, create a game out of watching some of the old movies you have at home. Play games such as guess the next line or word while watching your favorite movie. This is the funniest suggestion I think I have: Have your teen teach you the latest dance (LOL). Try creating new meals with your children, something they really like to eat.
5. Use coupons. Swap coupons with your friends and family; they may have coupons that you need or you may have coupons that your family and friends can use. Coupons can save you a whole lot of money.
6. Family sales. Have a yard sale. As you begin to go through your home, there are things you probably have not used or worn in years. If you are not comfortable with having a yard sale, check with local churches or community organizations. Community yard sales are common and families can lease a table for a small fee. You pay the fee to the church or organization and all of the proceeds are yours to keep.
If you have any survival techniques of your own, feel free to post them.
Inspirational Words of Encouragement:
As a single parent, we often tend to worry about the days ahead, as well as today. It is our nature to want to provide, protect and nurture our families. What we must remember is that we have no control over what may happen in life. Where we thought there was stability in our life is now rocky soil. God did not intend for us to worry about things we have absolutely no control over; He is in control! He is our provider and resource. I know this is hard to hear when you are struggling and scared; but give God a chance.
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Matt 6:25 (NIV)
Visit us on the web: http://www.s2asinglesministries.org/
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